Bring on the A**Holes!!!
A few months ago, my closest friends had an intervention with me! We laugh about it now, but they seemed to think that I only dated celebrities and sportspeople! Well, okay I didn't do it deliberately but yeah I did have the tendency to date people with a profile. So they thought it was time to put an end to it as I always seemed to get treated like crap by these particular people and end up having my heart broken (well not that extreme but yeah they didn’t make me feel amazing afterwards)!
I thought about why I was attracted to these types of people and I just couldn’t work it out- maybe it was because they worked in the same industry and understood the stress and pressures. Or perhaps I liked they had an exciting lifestyle. They funny thing was they did treat me like crap. Now I look back they were complete a**holes! They only ever wanted a booty call, they flirted with other women in front of me, they never called or they called only when they wanted something, and they only ever talked about themselves and didn’t really care much for my life! Easy to look back now and realize all this but at the time, I was lapping it up. I wanted more. I was attracted and fell for the a**hole!
We’ve all done it – maybe it’s the notion of ‘treat em mean and keep em keen.’ Well it works! For some reason we keep chasing after and needing to be with people who have no respect for us at all! Why?
I asked a few friends this question and totally agree with what they thought. Sometime the fact we have been single for a long time, we lower our standards and put up with being treated with no respect at all. We just want to be with someone that so we put up with the booty calls, the lack of regard for us and the relationship that is going nowhere!
It could be also that we love the thrill of the chase. I know that once I meet someone, that if give me everything on a silver platter and not keep some mystery, I lose interest and give them the flick. But the a**holes of the whole capture our attention and keep us. They play us so we keep coming back for me until in the end when we’re looking like desperate bunny boilers, they flick us for good!
I know it’s hard but dating people like this is no good for our self esteem or our happiness. Yes it’s exciting at the start but do you really want to be treated like crap all your life by someone who is suppose to love you. I met someone not long ago, after dating years with people who had a profile and you know what… I couldn’t be happier! I have someone who adores me, spoils me, there’s no crap – he calls when he says he will and he treats me like a princess. No celeb or sports player will ever treat me the same! So I have a lot to thank my friends for!
So tell me, why do you think we date the bad girls and boys?
Till next time my dating friends,
D.G x
