Is honesty really the best policy?
My parents always drilled into me from an early age that honesty is always the best policy and I’d like to think that I’ve always been pretty honest growing up – ok except that time I crashed my Mum’s car and blamed it on a someone crashing a shopping trolley into the side of the car! Ooops - sorry Mum!
I have come across a situation in recent weeks where I must say in some cases honesty is not the best policy.
I met a very charming young boy at a party who I slipped my business card to in hope that he may drop me a line and ask me out on a date!!! And he did just that! He took me to a lovely Spanish restaurant and everything was going reasonably well.
Ok… so he may have talked about his ex a little too much (an absolute no no on a first date) and he did seem a little obsessed with my job wanting to talk about it most of the night (yawn!) Anyway, we were getting on rather well and I suggested he come back to mine for a coffee (yes I know - very cliched).
After I paid for dinner (okay so times have changed) we went to my house, watched some TV and had a coffee. We were getting rather cosy on the couch doing a bit of the touchey feeley hand holding stuff.
As he wasn't making any moves, I decided to go in for the pash and to my amazement he stopped me. His explanation: he didn't want to get involved with me as he was going for a job where I worked and he didn't want the fact he was with me to effect that! And in his word 'I'm just being honest!'
BIG what the!!!!
If he didn't want to get involve with me what did he have dinner with me? Why did he flirt with me all night? Why on earth did he come back for coffee and start groping me like an over sexed teenage boy?
Why??? Because purely he was using me for my job but fool is he! Come Monday when my friend who was interviewing him for the job asked my how the date was - of course I told the truth and to say the least - he didn't get the job!
So here's what I think - sometimes honesty isn't the best policy. In this case, spare me the $200 dinner and drinks, the fact that I thought he was a great guy and the humiliation of being rejected. If he really wanted that job - he should have taken me for coffee and made me a network contact! Silly boy!
RIDDLE ME THIS: IS HONESTY THE BEST POLICY?
DO YOU HAVE AN EXAMPLE OF WHEN HONESTY IS NOT THE BEST POLICY?
I have come across a situation in recent weeks where I must say in some cases honesty is not the best policy.
I met a very charming young boy at a party who I slipped my business card to in hope that he may drop me a line and ask me out on a date!!! And he did just that! He took me to a lovely Spanish restaurant and everything was going reasonably well.
Ok… so he may have talked about his ex a little too much (an absolute no no on a first date) and he did seem a little obsessed with my job wanting to talk about it most of the night (yawn!) Anyway, we were getting on rather well and I suggested he come back to mine for a coffee (yes I know - very cliched).
After I paid for dinner (okay so times have changed) we went to my house, watched some TV and had a coffee. We were getting rather cosy on the couch doing a bit of the touchey feeley hand holding stuff.
As he wasn't making any moves, I decided to go in for the pash and to my amazement he stopped me. His explanation: he didn't want to get involved with me as he was going for a job where I worked and he didn't want the fact he was with me to effect that! And in his word 'I'm just being honest!'
BIG what the!!!!
If he didn't want to get involve with me what did he have dinner with me? Why did he flirt with me all night? Why on earth did he come back for coffee and start groping me like an over sexed teenage boy?
So here's what I think - sometimes honesty isn't the best policy. In this case, spare me the $200 dinner and drinks, the fact that I thought he was a great guy and the humiliation of being rejected. If he really wanted that job - he should have taken me for coffee and made me a network contact! Silly boy!
RIDDLE ME THIS: IS HONESTY THE BEST POLICY?
DO YOU HAVE AN EXAMPLE OF WHEN HONESTY IS NOT THE BEST POLICY?
Celebrity Obsession
His own fault, he definitely deserved what he got.
Cinematrix
This is why he doesn't deserve you:
Why not pull out the honesty much earlier in the date?
To decieve you.
At anytime before the agreement to meet up, the dinner, the drinks, the come-up-for-coffee and even the touchy-feely-gropey stage he could have informed you! Any person that was truly enjoying their time with you would feel guilty and do something before being sprung into a confession.
This "just being honest" is an excuse of fraudulent dating, false advertising and manipulative marketing.
Not worth it. DateGal 1. Deciever 0.
Thank you for yuor comments and as you would expect I haven't heard from this guy again - probably running with his tail between his legs somewhere a long way away from me!
Cinematrix
Don't worry, plenty more in the sea!