Date GalTo Lower or Not To Lower One's Dating Standards
When I was a naive and peppy 16 year old, like most teenage girls I wrote a list of certain qualities that I was looking for in my ideal man! Tall, dark, handsome, had to be ambituous, have a great job, car, oh did the list goes on. I think in the end it was 2 pages and had about 100 points on it. Now I look back on the list, I realise I was living in dreamland. Or was I?
Sure, some of the points were incredibly superficial - I only wanted to date a footballer or a celebrity (thank goodness I am a little bit older and wiser now) - but some were quite valid. I wanted the fundamentals in someone I wanted to be with - honesty, respect, good sense of humour and fun and great morals. Hmm... maybe I didn't have my entire head in fantasy land!
The thing is that over the years after being single numerous times, I seem to have perhaps lowered my standards. The list I once had has probably gone from 100 points to about 30. And I ask myself, why is this? Is it because I am getting older and the thought of settling down is in the near future? Or is there less men to go around so I have to settle for men who don't really meet what I want or need?
I spoke to the girls about this issue and everyone agrees that they are in the same boat - they're lowering their standards because there are limited men to go around and they have given up on meeting their dream guy. Is this a cop out? And is this really fair to the men we meet? I would hate to think how they would feel if they really knew we were settling for second best! Yikes!
So what do you guys think - are we all settling for second best because we've given up on finding our ideal partner? Is it the same for men - are they resorting to dating women who don't meet their criteria?
Til next time my dating friends,
DG
P.S - Want to know who my ideal man is: Dream on Date Gal... Dream On
Sure, some of the points were incredibly superficial - I only wanted to date a footballer or a celebrity (thank goodness I am a little bit older and wiser now) - but some were quite valid. I wanted the fundamentals in someone I wanted to be with - honesty, respect, good sense of humour and fun and great morals. Hmm... maybe I didn't have my entire head in fantasy land!
The thing is that over the years after being single numerous times, I seem to have perhaps lowered my standards. The list I once had has probably gone from 100 points to about 30. And I ask myself, why is this? Is it because I am getting older and the thought of settling down is in the near future? Or is there less men to go around so I have to settle for men who don't really meet what I want or need?
I spoke to the girls about this issue and everyone agrees that they are in the same boat - they're lowering their standards because there are limited men to go around and they have given up on meeting their dream guy. Is this a cop out? And is this really fair to the men we meet? I would hate to think how they would feel if they really knew we were settling for second best! Yikes!
So what do you guys think - are we all settling for second best because we've given up on finding our ideal partner? Is it the same for men - are they resorting to dating women who don't meet their criteria?
Til next time my dating friends,
DG
P.S - Want to know who my ideal man is: Dream on Date Gal... Dream On
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Young men are notorious for being extremely superficial, but the truth is, as men age, they come to appreciate different qualities. I expect women are much the same?
Thanks, DG