Date GalThe Bitch is Back
Remember the song 'Breaking Up Is Hard to Do'? Well I think those kids knew what they were talking about. Even if you're the one who is doing the dumping, it is still bloody hard. Last week I felt like a right royal cow when I told one of the most perfect guys in the world that he wasn't so perfect for me... let's go back to the start!!!
A couple of months ago, I returned from a very relaxing holiday in Thailand. I was in Sydney for a joint Xmas party with my girlfriend. At the party, I met a guy and I had one of those moments which I rarely have. I did the 'whoa, he is so hot' thing in my head when I shook hands with him. Little did I know, this guy was friends with all my Sydney friends, but for some reason we had just never met. So we started flirting and we had a party pash which was cool. I stayed at his house that night but nothing happened - we just talked and spent the day together. At that moment, I don't know whether it was the alcohol, stil having the holiday vibe or the fact this guy was like no other guy I had met, but I knew I would be with him.
The only problem, I lived in Melb. Who cares right? Well we didn't! We thought we'd give it a go and travel so we could get to know each other. Just for the record, we were never boyfriend/girlfriend... just friends.
Long distance was a little hard, but we had such great emails, phone calls, texts and I was really falling for this guy. The thing was I really didn't know him. When I saw him it was like the first few dates, and I was still getting to know him. As this little adventure progressed, I realised that perhaps I didn't like him. There were things that annoyed me, our lifetsyles were very different and he was very naieve about the world. We kept traveling and trying but in the end I had to make the call.
It was one of the hardest things I have had to do - break the heart of a guy who was totlaly smittened with me. But how could we keep plugging away at something that would never work? I had to be honest and do both of us a favor! Still though, it made me feel like crap!
I don't know if we will ever be great mates but I guess time will tell... all I know at the moment is breaking up (even if you're not in a relationship) is bloody hard to do!!!
