"Why are you still single?"
Gaaaaahhh!!! The most dreaded question of all singletons. Why are we still single? Why indeed..
What I'd really like to ask those who ask that question is - why does it matter? And I have asked that question, many times, only to be met with a simple shrug and an "it doesn't.." Weeeelll...then why did they ask??
Those who read my previous post will recall I met an older man on the weekend. I caught up with some old friends the next day and was telling them about the loveliest guy that I have met in ages and how he said that I was everything he looked for in a woman, when one of my friends asked: "Why is he still single?" I just laughed and said "Yeh, he was asking me that, too!" thinking that he meant, if he's such a lovely guy, why is he still single.
What he really meant was, why is he still single when he's 35?
This is a question that really grates on me. It is no-one's business but your own as to "why" you're single and there are so many reasons - some people are career-focused and don't want distractions; others have ended long-term relationships and need 'time out' before entering the next; others are still exploring their sexuality, unsure as to which 'team they bat for' and then you get people like me - people who have enough respect for themselves that they are not prepared to settle with any guy who shows interest, or for fear of never finding someone else.
Finding love is not a race. In love, as in life, people move at difference speeds and it's about the journey you have and the lessons you learn along the way, not whether you find the love of your life before you're middle aged.
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Beautifully put. I think that many people do settle for second best because they think they'll never get to be with their ideal partner - and they'd be right, because they'll never get the chance to know that ideal person if they're already taken by the time they meet them!
I used to get that question all the time myself, especially during the seven months I had of being single before I met the love of my life. Those seven months were brilliant, actually; they allowed me to get on with life, move away from the less-than-fabulous relationships of the past, and learn more about myself. They also put me in the best position to be ready for the man who is (as far as I know!) my lifetime partner.
You need to come up with something really witty to respond to that question....... I can't think of anything right now but I'm sure someone else on the Internet has! Great post CB.